Do you ever wonder why people chose to cheat? Maybe for survival? I mean I’ve known a lot of people who cheated on their exams because they don’t want to re-learn the previous lessons in each subject and whenever I asked them why they did what they did, they’re just gonna shrug and say “I don’t have a choice, I don’t want to fail plus I won’t get caught, they wouldn’t know” well, facts. I’m going to be honest; I do cheat back then when I was in high school or elementary, I don’t exactly remember, but when I enter senior high school, I never cheated again. Some people may think that cheating in an exam is not much of a big deal but the truth is, it is unfair for those people who study hard just to pass the exams, and honestly back then I don’t feel any guilt at all, am I bad?
Then why don’t we talk about cheating in a relationship, oh come on! Honestly, I am confident that there is no valid reason for a person to cheat. If you are one of those people who are cheating on their partner, let me tell you this. You don’t love them anymore? They have changed? They are disrespectful? They are not treating you right? LEAVE. I mean, karma can do its own thing, right? It’s just like you are fixing a mistake by creating another mistake and remembering the trauma you will let the other person feel for the rest of his or her life. Imagine waking up feeling unworthy, unloved, like there’s a part of you that had been taken away just because someone cheated.
And if your partner cheated on you, remember this. No matter what situation you are both facing, cheating is never a solution. Funny to think that there are people I have known and heard their reasons for cheating “I am sad, I need someone” “It’s the genes that acting up” “It was just a one-time thing” “It’s because of you” “I don’t know what I’m doing” see? Their reasons are just pure emotional manipulation that stands that there is something wrong with them. And it is not you to blame, they did what they did because they know that they won’t get caught and they knew that you will forgive and choose them no matter what. I hope you have the courage to let people go when they start disrespecting you because remember that you don’t hurt people you love.
I tried so hard to think of any possible reasons why people cheat and there is one thing that keeps popping up in my head, and it says “because they are shitty human beings” and indeed they are. They will keep on doing it until they get caught and blame it on you or something else just to escape the mistake they made, they will think or do something that makes your heart soft so you could forgive them, most of them are just sorry because they feel guilt within themselves but not the fact that they hurt you and stop trying to find a valid reason to cover up what they did, you know better than that. Just like cheating in exams and in a relationship, or in any form, it’s never been right and will never be right, and no valid reason for that.
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Author: Kristine Andrea Manaloto
